Do I know you?
“Hi. Thanks for friending me. Do I know you?”
Really? You’re really going to ask that question to someone that attempts to meet you in a social network?
Without trying to seem arrogant or irritated, I usually reply back with something that essentially means, “You would if you would open your eyes to social media.” Of course I rephrase that a bit to not sound truly irritated.
Social media is the perfect platform to make new friends, expand your business network, and get to know people better. Don’t blow it right off the bat by seeming like you don’t like people in general.
What do you think?
Why would you ask that question before approving a friendship?
Or how would you respond to someone that tells you to “talk to the hand”?
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phahahaha! Glad to know I’m not the only one that thinks this! I think some people just don’t realize the beauty of social networking and how you are there to make NEW friends!
I see no problem with politely inquiring “Do I know you?” I’ve done this several times to find out that I don’t know the person and that I DON’T WANT TO KNOW the person. Just because it’s a social network doesn’t mean it’s always welcome - or safe. If the friend request doesn’t add value to me, my life, my family or my work, I don’t want to accept it.
I think it’s fine to ask. Sometimes people friend…thinking they’ve found a long lost friend…and it’s the wrong person. That’s OK too. It happens.
U hit the nail on the head - I have one more test- Is the unkown person a Hokie?
Now see, I like that way you think Art!
Beverly & Pam: I can certainly understand your thinking. But I have to ask, how do you know if a person ‘could’ add value to your life unless you interact with them? Same as in-person. I also do understand the safety aspect.
Don’t misunderstand. I am advocating friending even if you aren’t sure you know someone. That’s fine. Sometimes you discover a new friend. Sometimes an old friend. Sometimes no friend. But you never know till you ask.
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I see no difference in this than in a normal day to day interaction. You are going to come across people you don’t know in networking events, etc… and still introduce yourself, what is the difference if it is online? I think the people who are hesitant of this are still overall hesitant about Social Networking/Media and still running to catch the bus. I say introduce yourself to any you feel fit, but have the common sense to still bring VALUE to them in some way. After all, you still have to show VALUE and how can help them, but it all starts with a “Hello, will you be my friend?”
How do I know if a person could add value? If he/she is a Hokie, it is a given. If he/she is a Hoo - well, I’d have to really think about whether it’s worth it or not.
Seriously, I know if a person adds value by asking questions which leads me back to the point that it’s perfectly okay to ask. Asking doesn’t mean closing a door. It means I … Read Morewant more info. before I make my decision. If asking is considered offensive or an annoyance, then that’s a friend I don’t want to have. All relationships require give and take. If I can’t ask or I get zero response to my inquiry from the get-go, then it’s a big red flag to me.
I think this is where the lines of social networking are starting to get blurred with traditional business networking. Compare a social party to a networking event. At a networking event, everyone is there for the same thing, so it is easy to establish a basis for conversation simply with “Hello, my name is, what do you do?”. At a party, it is completely different, which is why guys have to use so many lame pickup lines.
In an attempt to show “value” guys try and bring humor, etc.
Translate that to social media and you can understand where someone who sees Social Media as a Party vs. a Networking Event and you understand the variety of reactions to a simple “I want to be your friend.”
I, for one, look to expand my network under the “You never know” category. That still doesn’t keep me from using bad pickup lines at networking events
I ask people that question when I’m trying to place how they heard about or know me…important for my marketing and for my friendships! I’m not trying to put anyone off, just trying to make sure I pay attention to remembering and connecting them in my mind to where we may have met and how I can better connect with them.